Helping a Child with Nocturnal Enuresis

Bed wetting is a very serious condition that needs to be addressed immediately. A child that suffers from bed wetting does not only feel like he is odd, he will often be ridiculed by the people around him because of a situation he cannot control.

One of the worst things that can happen to a child with nocturnal enuresis is the inability to function normally in a social context.  This is understandable because he will feel embarrassed to be with others.  At this time, the child may be invited to sleepovers and it would be awkward for him to go, so he would not go instead. Additionally, the child may appear withdrawn and this would cause him to appear “strange” to his school mates and playmates.

Helping Your Child Socially Starts at Home

The home is where your child will get the most support to be confident of himself even around other people and the outside world.  A healthy social image starts with a child’s self image; if he knows that he is deemed worthy and special in his own household, he is more ready to face the world outside.

As a parent of a child who bed wets, it is often hard to accept that your child suffers from an “anomaly.” That is how most of us view bed wetting.  Although it is true that nocturnal enuresis may be caused by a shift in normal development; this shift is caused by different factors that cannot be attributed to the child’s fault or the parents for that matter.

If your child wets his bed at a time when you are sure that he should already have developed full bladder control even at night, the first thing to do is to seek medical advice.  This is important in order for you to understand what exactly is going on with your child.

The next step is to help your child understand what is going on in his body.  If you keep on going to the doctor and not tell your child why, he will think that there is something terribly wrong and might cause him anxiety.

Let Your Child Open up to the World

It is important to let your child know that his bed wetting can be gotten over, but you have to make sure that he understands that there is a process to follow.  Sometimes, this may mean that he has more things to do before going to bed, like maybe set an alarm, but this is nothing different, than say, a child wearing corrective eyeglasses.

Once you are certain that your child has a better understanding of his condition, try not to be overly protective of him.  He will have friends, and that is always a good thing.  When the time comes that he starts asking permission to go to a sleepover, it would be at his best interest to not go, just until the treatment has become successful. Talk about it with him and do not say no outright.  It is crucial that he understands the reasons why he should not go, or if he decides to still push through with the plans, explain to him the possible situations that may arise.